Socialize and Dating
Sometimes, we are caught up with work that we no longer have time to go out and enjoy life. There are times when we spend most of our time in front of our laptops typing the time away. Moreover, there are also instances when we spend most of our time looking at the television when we should be enjoying the company of our girlfriends. Indeed, life becomes dull and we should look for excitement in other areas instead of realizing that the reason for lack of socialization is actually there because nobody likes to spend all the time working.
According to research, this is the main reason why most people don’t get time to socialize. The more they work, the more time they spend at work. And because they work, there is less time to socialize. When young people start out in their careers, they are not prepared mentally for life after accomplishing their goals.
As they get older, most of them fall into what we call “a routine life”. They hardly have any time for themselves and don’t really know how to maintain relationships. At their age, they are more or less prepared for not having any kids, or for starting a family. And that’s pretty much it.
Now, as time passes by, the girls who are still single, start to feel that they need to have a family is missing suddenly. Some of them start to feel alone as the years go by.
But be careful! Being single is not the same as being free. Singlehood is not the same as being lonely. And being lonely is not the same as being social. There are a lot of men and women who find themselves without a partner especially when they are 40 or even older.
At that age, people want to have something in common with other people. They want to be able to talk at length. So if you are one of those people who find yourself lonely and do not know how to get a boyfriend or a girlfriend, you should not feel bad at all. We all have to deal with it at one point and nurture whatever is there in our life at that time.
But there are also certain things that you should know before getting involved in a relationship.
(1) don’t be too desperate to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend;
(2) be sure if you like someone, also check if the same person is comfortable with you, don’t waste your time before you have found that out, and
(3) be sure if you have nothing in common with the person you like, then you should not just go ahead and pick up the phone and make a meeting with him/her, you might only end up making things worse. So, as you can see, finding a partner, a boyfriend or a girlfriend is not a very good decision at the very early stage of the game!
But if you are really someone who has the courage to go ahead with it and just do it without any kind of worries, then you can go ahead and pick up the phone and make a friendly call or send an SMS to the person you found very interesting that you have been corresponding with for a while now or even to the person you just met this morning.
But if you have decided to take the bold step and not bother wasting another minute of your life to talk to someone you met only recently, you should go ahead and make the decision to meet the person and talk to him/her. Ask him/her if it is OK if you could join their group to meet up friends, or if they would like to see a movie with you.
Make sure you are well dressed and a good conversationalist. Be yourself and be confident. And at the very first meeting, be sure if you are able to be charming, witty, humorous, and something that is interesting to talk to. Because the more you do it, the easier it will be for you.
So the next time you will be picking up the phone to call or text, you can take a little break and be yourself. It will be good for you. That way you will be yourself and be confident, and the person you are getting to know will notice that you are sincere and honest. In the end, if you are sincere, that is why you have been able to build a strong relationship, and if you are sincere then there is no reason that you should not be able to continue that relationship and build a strong relationship with the person. And besides, what is love if there is no sincerity involved?
There is no need to have so much theorizing, thinking, and daydreaming about why you cannot seem to get a boyfriend or girlfriend. Because there is no real cure for this disease, if there is no cure, you will only endure it for this lifetime. You better bet on yourself than to waste this one life.