Nice Guy Syndrome
Once you have decided you need to change and become a ladies’ man you may be wondering which traits you should diminish. You could be a very good friend to her, but she will surely not consider you as a catch should you show her traits of being over possessive, possessive, manipulative, jealous and so many other traits that are considered bad manners.
While it is true some of these traits fit into the nice guy category, you do not want to be the nice guy. Being the nice guy will get you nowhere fast, as he is great at taking simple favors such as ordering a drink for her, and dropping her home.
The bad news is that there are a number of guys that fit the nice guy persona. These guys rule the dating scene, and many women consider them to be one of the best dates they have ever been on. They are considered to be of great character and have an infectious charm that makes them irresistible to women of all ages.
Sad to say, though, that these same women seldom consider these men for a long term relationship. Why is it that the nice guy is not considered a long-term boyfriend?
Well, it all comes down to his traits of being over possessive, possessive, manipulative, jealous, and emotionally needy. Yes, these are all the same traits that women find attractive and Mr. Nice Guy is no exception. On the other hand, the nice guy is known to be of great character and to be friendly and thoughtful. He will not consider moving too far with any woman that he has formed a strong bond. These traits, along with his friendly disposition, make him appealing and intriguing to women of all ages.
Now, in contrast, what keeps women from finding him attractive? It is all in the way he communicates. For one, he is too passive. Meeting a woman’s need for attention, he is happy to oblige at first, but will soon turn away and would rather not communicate with her. He will not ask her out. He will not consider buying her a present or taking her on a date. When he is in a relationship with a woman, generally he will not initiate sex, he will wait for her to initiate it.
This passive role that he plays, makes women think that these are the ways in which men communicate and share feelings with each other. On the other hand, there are men who are honest, direct, fun-loving, generous and so many other great traits and characteristics that make them the man to marry. These men are not afraid to share their opinions. They are also more willing to simply have a woman and to treat her with respect.
So, which one is better? I think if you can answer that question, then you will have a decisive answer; you just need to find the right woman. When selecting a mate for a long-term relationship, the key is to find a woman that you can have a great relationship. Your choice of a life partner should be someone who has the same dreams and aspirations, but that also has the willingness to fulfill these dreams and aspirations.
If indeed Mr. Nice Guy wishes to find a woman to share his life with, he has definitely found the right person. On the other hand, if he finds that his potential life partner is not someone he can have a relationship with, then he has found a reason to live and enjoy the single life.
Perhaps the reason why he is not finding this common partner is that he is simply picking the wrong person. He does not have a firm grasp of the female nature and psyche. More likely is this is a case of mistaken attraction.
As a guy out there, it is now your responsibility and responsibility only to learn more about the lady you are interested in. She too needs to learn a few things about navigation, tone, body language, human psychology, and what a man wants.
Once you have made the corrective, there may be nothing that the two of you can do. It is the period of ‘ searching’ (you might just call it), where you both are concerned. During this period of searching; you are the one who has to prove something about your sensitive side.
Within this period your chemistry might break down and your non-verbal and verbal communications might seem less sharp. Therefore, what I suggest is having a plan of action. This action is to be taken when you have been able to break the cycle of simply talking to each other all throughout the searching phase.
Having a plan is an area of fidelity and active ankles! Over the years it has been demonstrated that relationships are based on fidelity and trust, while anything else fades away. I agree because how can you expect to be a good wife or husband if you are not a good conversationalist?
