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The Nice Guy Syndrome And The Needy Guy Syndrome

Nice Guy Syndrome

Once you have decided you need to change and become a ladies’ man you may be wondering which traits you should diminish. You could be a very good friend to her, but she will surely not consider you as a catch should you show her traits of being over possessive, possessive, manipulative, jealous and so many other traits that are considered bad manners.

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While it is true some of these traits fit into the nice guy category, you do not want to be the nice guy. Being the nice guy will get you nowhere fast, as he is great at taking simple favors such as ordering a drink for her, and dropping her home.

The bad news is that there are a number of guys that fit the nice guy persona. These guys rule the dating scene, and many women consider them to be one of the best dates they have ever been on. They are considered to be of great character and have an infectious charm that makes them irresistible to women of all ages.

Sad to say, though, that these same women seldom consider these men for a long term relationship. Why is it that the nice guy is not considered a long-term boyfriend?

Well, it all comes down to his traits of being over possessive, possessive, manipulative, jealous, and emotionally needy. Yes, these are all the same traits that women find attractive and Mr. Nice Guy is no exception. On the other hand, the nice guy is known to be of great character and to be friendly and thoughtful. He will not consider moving too far with any woman that he has formed a strong bond. These traits, along with his friendly disposition, make him appealing and intriguing to women of all ages.

Now, in contrast, what keeps women from finding him attractive? It is all in the way he communicates. For one, he is too passive. Meeting a woman’s need for attention, he is happy to oblige at first, but will soon turn away and would rather not communicate with her. He will not ask her out. He will not consider buying her a present or taking her on a date. When he is in a relationship with a woman, generally he will not initiate sex, he will wait for her to initiate it.

This passive role that he plays, makes women think that these are the ways in which men communicate and share feelings with each other. On the other hand, there are men who are honest, direct, fun-loving, generous and so many other great traits and characteristics that make them the man to marry. These men are not afraid to share their opinions. They are also more willing to simply have a woman and to treat her with respect.

So, which one is better? I think if you can answer that question, then you will have a decisive answer; you just need to find the right woman. When selecting a mate for a long-term relationship, the key is to find a woman that you can have a great relationship. Your choice of a life partner should be someone who has the same dreams and aspirations, but that also has the willingness to fulfill these dreams and aspirations.

If indeed Mr. Nice Guy wishes to find a woman to share his life with, he has definitely found the right person. On the other hand, if he finds that his potential life partner is not someone he can have a relationship with, then he has found a reason to live and enjoy the single life.

Perhaps the reason why he is not finding this common partner is that he is simply picking the wrong person. He does not have a firm grasp of the female nature and psyche. More likely is this is a case of mistaken attraction.

As a guy out there, it is now your responsibility and responsibility only to learn more about the lady you are interested in. She too needs to learn a few things about navigation, tone, body language, human psychology, and what a man wants.

Once you have made the corrective, there may be nothing that the two of you can do. It is the period of ‘ searching’ (you might just call it), where you both are concerned. During this period of searching; you are the one who has to prove something about your sensitive side.

Within this period your chemistry might break down and your non-verbal and verbal communications might seem less sharp. Therefore, what I suggest is having a plan of action. This action is to be taken when you have been able to break the cycle of simply talking to each other all throughout the searching phase.

Having a plan is an area of fidelity and active ankles! Over the years it has been demonstrated that relationships are based on fidelity and trust, while anything else fades away. I agree because how can you expect to be a good wife or husband if you are not a good conversationalist?

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Why Do Nice Guys Stop Making Moves? 5 Reasons Why He Pulled Back

5 Reasons Why Nice Guys Pulled Back

It had been weeks since you last had a date! And he suddenly became aware of the fact that you were not going out with him or with someone else.

Suddenly you found yourself asking -WHY DO I STOP MAKING MOVES WHEN I START FEELING DEEPLY CLEAN exchanged signals with a guy I liked being with?

In a desperate attempt to get things back on track, you stopped all further communication with the nice guy and his behavior put you in a wrong position.

A few thoughts about why nice guys can stop making moves.

Common reasons why nice guys can stop making moves.

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  1. He is intimidated by you. mound n one shot or attractive represents persisting in an activity or meeting a girl who has good standards and Judging how you “fit into” a social scenario. Deciding how you would act in a particular situation by using a “pick-up line” or making a fool of yourself in a conversation because you feel like you are more poised or skilled at picking up women.

It gives you an excuse to safety check him. If he truly is as handsome as he appears then he will do as you please and stop at nothing to impress you.

  1. He realises you are an exciting, independent woman. A most attractive quality for a man is when an attractive woman leads a life of her own, has various interests, and is socially active. At least she is not totally dependent on an interesting man to provide the family with a stable life.
  2. He realises you have more to yourself than just your beauty. At its most basic level, having a high self worth is based on numerous successes in life and this also includes professional achievements.
  3. He realises you are a woman. Being a woman is a fact that shouldn’t be ashamed of. Once a man realises a woman can be just as intelligent, witty and caring as he could’ve dreamed of, it brings a new dimension to courtship and exploration of possibilities.
  4. He is no longer sexually tickled and the thrill of seduction has disappeared. Sex is a natural expression of love, and in the early stages of a relationship itself, no doubt sexy and exciting. There will be no more time to “trick” the manger when he is already over their rosy mountains.

At some point during the relationship, sex takes the place of “just getting to know each other” important decisions and insights, and the man may withdraw sometimes rather than confide in you because he is afraid sexually or just because he is not physically attracted to you.

So, why did the nice guy become withdrawn?

  1. He lacked the self confidence to succeed where others had not been so successful. During dating, the nice guy was not sure of his looks, his adoring gaze, his conversational skills, his conversational ability, his desire to please, his adoring gaze, and many other confidence inhibiting factors.
  2. He disliked his job. Why would an arrogant person want to work every day. Even though work may not be a “lucky” situation at times, he would never want to expose his true self during office hours.
  3. He was afraid of his turbulent nature. As a child he may have been told by a caregiver to “be a good boy” because boys don’t usually get into fights. Later in life he may have admixtures of traits from all the wrong relationships, such as physical abuse, verbal abuse, emotional neglect, and even substance abuse.
  4. He married or near-married and has kids. Cheap kids! Dirty, dirty kids! But he did have them and hadn’t married for several years.
  5. He had failed relationships and previous relationships. This could be stress, issues with working out his finances, with handling his disinterest in a woman, or perhaps he had been hurt by a woman.

The nice guy could be shy and unsure when it comes to approaching a woman, he may suddenly need an ego boost, he uses the “be nice” approach and the woman may reject him, he then tries to put himself down in order to justify his own behavior. Yuck!