Openers for All Situations
I want to share a story with you all that I thought was interesting.
Friday night, I was sitting at my favorite little bar, enjoying a few drinks with some friends. I was telling my friends about this new girl that I was meeting. She showed up with a big belly, a style that is not usually found in women of my age, and a flat stomach.
paragraphs later, one of my friends said, “She’s cheap!”
I wrote, “The openers are always huh?” and then my other friend replied, “Yeah, I always go for that.”
My friend was dead serious.
Another friend said it works like this: You see a hot girl, just walk up and say, “Hi, I’m whiffing this real slow. Ladies, I don’t come to your place.”
That is all there is to it.
No canned material. There is no script. None of those little steps into attraction.
Just walk up, introduce yourself, ask her name, anything.
Then she’ll respond. She’ll let you know if she’s attracted to you.
So the next step is to NOT get in her face, in a smarmy manner, but rather, step back and see if she’s just being friendly.
If she is arm candy, she just might let you stay in her “til’ while you’re talking to the rest of her circle.
Then you have 2 options. Either leave her by saying, “Okay, it’s time for me to get back to my friends.” Or, “I really enjoyed talking to you, I think you have a great personality. Bye.”
Remember, you are in the party to meet people, not to pick up or hook up. She doesn’t need you to get her number or anything. You are not her drug of choice.
So keep this in mind. You are not the golden boy/girl, the seducer, the player who must seduce every woman. Leave that to the players.
Here’s what happened the other night.
I was at a little bar on 5th Avenue in Hollywood. My friend told me to go start a conversation with a group of girls that were outside for a men’s night out.
I took my time to walk up to the group, and I opened up with, “So, I need your opinion on something.”
One of the girls said, “Yeah, what do you need?”
I said, “I don’t know what to do with these girls. You sound like one of the nines. I want to go home with 3 of you, but I’m thinking that you ladies might want to talk to a guy first.”
From that, they all looked at each other and all four of them smiled.
They were like, “Okay, you want to get it on?”
From there, I said, “Well, we’ll see.”
They all laughed.
I then said, “I need to get back to my friends. See ya.”
They were like, “No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.”
I then said, “I’m on my cell phone, let me just grab it.”
They were like, “Aocoloe!”
I just rolling with the conversation and then leaving.
When I stopped, the guy that was with them was like, “Don’t you have anything else to do?”
I said, “Nah, I’m on my cell phone, let me just grab it.”
Then I just got into laughing.
The guy was trying to flirt with me from that point on, but I didn’t give him any indication of interest, and he quit altogether.
He finally called me on my cell phone.
“I think we did pretty well, huh?”
“I’m usually not a fan of guys who take it too seriously.”
“That’s true. I’ve been with a couple of nice guys in recent years, but they really weren’t my type at all. But I’m glad I met you because you’re my best friend. I’m not a big celebrity, but I do have a sense of humor and self-esteem that is relatively unique amongst women. Is there anything else you want to tell me?”
“I wanted to tell you… I…”
“I already know that. But I’m a little surprised. I didn’t think you and me would work out. I do like you though. Is there anyway we could be friends? I’m not sure how I’m going to take this, but I’d like to know a little about you.”