Arguments at times occur in a relationship no matter how much you may like each other.
Dating is not a definite time of time in which if you are arguing issues in your relationship. You can have ups and downs in your relationship but it takes two to tango and can be easier to manage especially if one is the more aggressive one in terms of expression.
Trying to persuade your partner to agree sometimes can make them angry because a relationship is not an easy deal to work out but it can also work out in the long term as long as you take some sort of constructive approach to issues rather than nagging all the time.
Dating instances is not an easy job for either of the individuals and as a general rule of thumb, it is better to be on your best behavior at all times and try your best not to be emotional but be a flexible and accommodating partner at all times.
When your date has issues to deal with be the sounding board and be sympathetic in a warm and patient way rather than get angry or grumpy as this is a behavior that is not likable by most people. As a start, when you are trying to understand your date, try to keep the conversation on something in the middle between being argumentative and being heated in order to prevent any heated arguments.
Never raise your voice on your date as raising your voice or raising to the occasion can be interpreted as nagging. Never nag, as the relationship is supposed to be enjoyable, not difficult. Get the facts first and as you go along just be patient and polite with your date as strangers don’t usually start nagging until they know you personally.
Pass a remark to the topic of what you like or don’t like go into some detail if you feel the need. Part of the nagging is the judgment you might want to make on what you have done wrong or what you might wish the other person to do differently to help improve your relationship. You will find most people will appreciate your patience and understanding.
When you are venting about any issue that occurred in your previous relationship and you feel your partner has a problem attending to, follow the advice below to discuss your problem to avoid any arguments.
If you are going to discuss what happened in your previous relationship with your date then speak calmly and reasonably in a flowing manner about your previous relationship, try not to demean yourself as being the cause of the spilled coffee, don’t belittle them or say all the partners are cheating. You need to settle your difference in the relationship for both your sakes, you don’t want to burn bridges from your future relationship. Asking your date has the same purpose as one that we protect.
Try not to collect information such as where your previous partner had been, where they lived, what they did, or where they went on vacation too. You don’t want to make your date feel like in a prison guard’s uniform. This will cause your date to feel like they are under interrogation. What you are trying to achieve is getting your life together, you are getting your career on track, paying down your debt, buying a home, and achieving any worthwhile goals you have set as yet before you meet face to face. Your life must go on as you cannot spend your whole relationship under the watch of the law as well as your love life and job.
It will depend on your honesty with your lifestyle and bank balance if you can handle the extra stress of what to say and have to say, not to mention potential embarrassment in public. The extra time it takes is the time you can devote to your date and get to discover true love. And also remember people are people and you are also a person with good intentions but you have two different personalities, so be yourself and be kind.
