When a man starts to break your heart, your trust becomes broken also.
Has he broken your trust?
Trust is so crucial in every relationship. It makes you depend on each other and it makes you trust each other. What happens with trust? It’s like vital life support that keeps your relationship giving itself to another. When trust is gone, every relationship’s demise as a result. You can’t recover from this loss and move on. The pain deepens as the betraying is becoming clearer. The betrayal has occurred but you may not be able to understand what you did to cause this heartache or you may try to heal but you need to understand the value of trust before it is too late.
Do you trust him?
First of all, have you trusted him with your life? When you don’t trust him with your life you don’t have the basic foundation for a healthy relationship and you are better off without him.
When you tell me that you’re afraid to trust him with your life is that you have been betrayed by him. It’s understandable to be afraid of the outcome of your relationship. Before you begin dating someone new, assess your trust levels. It’s OK to be cautious. You have to open your mind and heart and let go of old desires but you also need to be trusting of your partner to maintain a healthy relationship.
What makes one a betray?
You have a betray at him if he has betrayed your trust by lying, cheating, or running off with the one he was supposed to love. Every relationship has its share of fights and misunderstandings. These situations are normal to happen but if your partner has seriously hurt you by betraying your trust, then please go to the Calm zone immediately and learn to develop a healthy trusting relationship.
When the trusting partner left, there was hurt and pain, and frustration. If someone has hurt you, the first thing you want to do is forgive them and love them back even though it has now ended.
There are certain things you can do to gain back your trust,
Tell you you are sorry. We all know there is no such thing as a perfect person and it is inevitable that not all relationships are perfect. To shrug off responsibility like that is very difficult to do. So you may not feel too bad by being sorry now but think of it like this, your sorry is only the first step to regaining your trust and love. Patience is the key to getting the situation back on track.
Talk to each other. It may sound awkward to suddenly talk about a problem you have. But why not talk about it before things get too serious. Once you have talked about it before, the solution will come to mind. Take courage from the conversation and proceed to care. You will be needing your trust later on so it is essential that you provide it to your partner. Because letting others betray your trust is one of the cruelest things one can do to you.
Get the help. If you both need some sort of support, find it. Sometimes even the best of relationships can suffer when both are lacking the help they need. But we all have stressful life, career, and personal problems. So, how about the next stressful problem you have. Bring it to light and see how they are coping … your partner, your family, and your friends should be helping you recover. But don’t expect too much too soon, you should be doing this shortly after the breakup. Right after speaking with the other one is much better than a year later. Trust me; you will be glad you did.