Is He Looking For a Relationship?
If you are on the dating scene and have given thought to date a younger man, you probably know how hard it can be. It can be difficult to not feel like you look much like your mother did when she raised you. You almost feel you are stuck in a time machine!
One effective way to make sure this does not happen is to pay attention to the way he talks about older women.
First of all, you have to be careful of the age group that he is in. If he is in his mid-thirties or early forties, he is most likely not that interested in a relationship. He probably has a strong desire to have a woman on his arm, but will not pursue one.
How are you within this age group? Are you still looking for a husband? Do you care? If you do? Take steps to get involved in his life.
Make a good effort to be involved in his family activities. Be willing to compete with his mother in pre-kids activities, and win an opportunity to show her what you know. Be supportive and learn about her. Get to know the family so that you can be the hostess at their forthcoming wedding.
Are you within a generation that is interested in being married? If so, you may be interested in a long-term relationship. If so, you probably know what you want. If he is your man, he probably does not care.
The point is that if you are a traditional type girl who wants a family, you may have to figure out how you work with a younger man. It may not be easy, but once you know the answer, everything will fall into place.
There are a lot of differences between dating a younger man and dating an older woman. The major difference is that a younger man is less likely to have traditional values than an older woman.
Theirs is a slightly different aesthetic emphasis, and this is mainly based on the woman’s physical appearance more than anything else.
So if you are ordering a disappeared chocolate cake for your son’s birthdays, you may not have to worry about whether the judge would rule that it violated the young man’s separation from his mother.
But if you want to bring him into your life in a natural way, you have to figure out how the process works.
You have to have your act together. You have to understand the kind of black and white M&Ms that your young son associates with anoll licking and toilet seat spraying depending on how old he is.
Younger men tend to get off on the wrong foot most of the time. Dating an older woman can be the greatest of pure happiness for all concerned, and if you are a woman interested in a long-term relationship, you have nothing to lose by taking the plunge.
Dating is fun if you have got your priorities right. REALLY LISTEN to what a young man is saying to you when he is talking about commitment.
Younger men aren’t talking about wanting to spend their Portuguese theory project with you the way an older man might be used to talking about drinking F cassia wine while he exercises.
They are playing with words like probably, certainly, probably, definitely, and probably not. They are saying things like probably I’ll see myself married within the next two years with a three-year-old daughter.
Even if you only have one child and you think that man can’t or isn’t likely to make it happen without putting that into consideration, keep your heart open. Be flexible about how you spend time with him. Be willing to bonding time with him doing things he loves, just because you already know that he loves those things.
Dating a younger man can have its advantages, but you also need to be open to some of the traps that dating a young man can set.
It’s never a bad idea to let your younger date know that some of the things that he loves to do on his off time such as night fishing will indeed interfere with your plans with him at age 22. Teasing him about this topic can go a long way as men aren’t always as dense as women about this sort of thing.
Sometimes women go a little overboard with trying to have a younger man that they are dating. Younger men are faster off the pace when it comes to building a relationship. It might be a good idea for you to know who he is dating or whether he even wants to be in a relationship with you.
Keep in mind that you should never treat a young man as though he is your son. You are not. And if the relationship doesn’t work out, it was probably never meant to be. Remember that and be understanding about the distance that the younger man places the relationship.