Why Do Nice Guys Stop Making Moves? 5 Reasons Why He Pulled Back

5 Reasons Why Nice Guys Pulled Back

It had been weeks since you last had a date! And he suddenly became aware of the fact that you were not going out with him or with someone else.

Suddenly you found yourself asking -WHY DO I STOP MAKING MOVES WHEN I START FEELING DEEPLY CLEAN exchanged signals with a guy I liked being with?

In a desperate attempt to get things back on track, you stopped all further communication with the nice guy and his behavior put you in a wrong position.

A few thoughts about why nice guys can stop making moves.

Common reasons why nice guys can stop making moves.

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  1. He is intimidated by you. mound n one shot or attractive represents persisting in an activity or meeting a girl who has good standards and Judging how you “fit into” a social scenario. Deciding how you would act in a particular situation by using a “pick-up line” or making a fool of yourself in a conversation because you feel like you are more poised or skilled at picking up women.

It gives you an excuse to safety check him. If he truly is as handsome as he appears then he will do as you please and stop at nothing to impress you.

  1. He realises you are an exciting, independent woman. A most attractive quality for a man is when an attractive woman leads a life of her own, has various interests, and is socially active. At least she is not totally dependent on an interesting man to provide the family with a stable life.
  2. He realises you have more to yourself than just your beauty. At its most basic level, having a high self worth is based on numerous successes in life and this also includes professional achievements.
  3. He realises you are a woman. Being a woman is a fact that shouldn’t be ashamed of. Once a man realises a woman can be just as intelligent, witty and caring as he could’ve dreamed of, it brings a new dimension to courtship and exploration of possibilities.
  4. He is no longer sexually tickled and the thrill of seduction has disappeared. Sex is a natural expression of love, and in the early stages of a relationship itself, no doubt sexy and exciting. There will be no more time to “trick” the manger when he is already over their rosy mountains.

At some point during the relationship, sex takes the place of “just getting to know each other” important decisions and insights, and the man may withdraw sometimes rather than confide in you because he is afraid sexually or just because he is not physically attracted to you.

So, why did the nice guy become withdrawn?

  1. He lacked the self confidence to succeed where others had not been so successful. During dating, the nice guy was not sure of his looks, his adoring gaze, his conversational skills, his conversational ability, his desire to please, his adoring gaze, and many other confidence inhibiting factors.
  2. He disliked his job. Why would an arrogant person want to work every day. Even though work may not be a “lucky” situation at times, he would never want to expose his true self during office hours.
  3. He was afraid of his turbulent nature. As a child he may have been told by a caregiver to “be a good boy” because boys don’t usually get into fights. Later in life he may have admixtures of traits from all the wrong relationships, such as physical abuse, verbal abuse, emotional neglect, and even substance abuse.
  4. He married or near-married and has kids. Cheap kids! Dirty, dirty kids! But he did have them and hadn’t married for several years.
  5. He had failed relationships and previous relationships. This could be stress, issues with working out his finances, with handling his disinterest in a woman, or perhaps he had been hurt by a woman.

The nice guy could be shy and unsure when it comes to approaching a woman, he may suddenly need an ego boost, he uses the “be nice” approach and the woman may reject him, he then tries to put himself down in order to justify his own behavior. Yuck!


Openers For All Situations – Story Version

Openers for All Situations

I want to share a story with you all that I thought was interesting.

Friday night, I was sitting at my favorite little bar, enjoying a few drinks with some friends.  I was telling my friends about this new girl that I was meeting.  She showed up with a big belly, a style that is not usually found in women of my age, and a flat stomach.

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paragraphs later, one of my friends said, “She’s cheap!”

I wrote, “The openers are always huh?” and then my other friend replied, “Yeah, I always go for that.”

My friend was dead serious.

Another friend said it works like this:  You see a hot girl, just walk up and say, “Hi, I’m whiffing this real slow. Ladies, I don’t come to your place.”

That is all there is to it.

No canned material.  There is no script.  None of those little steps into attraction.

Just walk up, introduce yourself, ask her name, anything.

Then she’ll respond. She’ll let you know if she’s attracted to you.

So the next step is to NOT get in her face, in a smarmy manner, but rather, step back and see if she’s just being friendly.

If she is arm candy, she just might let you stay in her “til’ while you’re talking to the rest of her circle.

Then you have 2 options.  Either leave her by saying, “Okay, it’s time for me to get back to my friends.”  Or, “I really enjoyed talking to you, I think you have a great personality.  Bye.”

Remember, you are in the party to meet people, not to pick up or hook up.  She doesn’t need you to get her number or anything.  You are not her drug of choice.

So keep this in mind.  You are not the golden boy/girl, the seducer, the player who must seduce every woman. Leave that to the players.

Here’s what happened the other night.

I was at a little bar on 5th Avenue in Hollywood.  My friend told me to go start a conversation with a group of girls that were outside for a men’s night out.

I took my time to walk up to the group, and I opened up with, “So, I need your opinion on something.”

One of the girls said, “Yeah, what do you need?”

I said, “I don’t know what to do with these girls.  You sound like one of the nines.  I want to go home with 3 of you, but I’m thinking that you ladies might want to talk to a guy first.”

From that, they all looked at each other and all four of them smiled.

They were like, “Okay, you want to get it on?”

From there, I said, “Well, we’ll see.”

They all laughed.

I then said, “I need to get back to my friends.  See ya.”

They were like, “No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.”

I then said, “I’m on my cell phone, let me just grab it.”

They were like, “Aocoloe!”

I just rolling with the conversation and then leaving.

When I stopped, the guy that was with them was like, “Don’t you have anything else to do?”

I said, “Nah, I’m on my cell phone, let me just grab it.”

Then I just got into laughing.

The guy was trying to flirt with me from that point on, but I didn’t give him any indication of interest, and he quit altogether.

He finally called me on my cell phone.

“I think we did pretty well, huh?”

“I’m usually not a fan of guys who take it too seriously.”

“That’s true.  I’ve been with a couple of nice guys in recent years, but they really weren’t my type at all.  But I’m glad I met you because you’re my best friend.  I’m not a big celebrity, but I do have a sense of humor and self-esteem that is relatively unique amongst women.  Is there anything else you want to tell me?”

“I wanted to tell you… I…”

“I already know that.  But I’m a little surprised.  I didn’t think you and me would work out.  I do like you though.  Is there anyway we could be friends? I’m not sure how I’m going to take this, but I’d like to know a little about you.”


The Importance Of Socialize And Dating

Socialize and Dating

Sometimes, we are caught up with work that we no longer have time to go out and enjoy life. There are times when we spend most of our time in front of our laptops typing the time away. Moreover, there are also instances when we spend most of our time looking at the television when we should be enjoying the company of our girlfriends. Indeed, life becomes dull and we should look for excitement in other areas instead of realizing that the reason for lack of socialization is actually there because nobody likes to spend all the time working.

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According to research, this is the main reason why most people don’t get time to socialize. The more they work, the more time they spend at work. And because they work, there is less time to socialize. When young people start out in their careers, they are not prepared mentally for life after accomplishing their goals.

As they get older, most of them fall into what we call “a routine life”. They hardly have any time for themselves and don’t really know how to maintain relationships. At their age, they are more or less prepared for not having any kids, or for starting a family. And that’s pretty much it.

Now, as time passes by, the girls who are still single, start to feel that they need to have a family is missing suddenly. Some of them start to feel alone as the years go by.

But be careful! Being single is not the same as being free. Singlehood is not the same as being lonely. And being lonely is not the same as being social. There are a lot of men and women who find themselves without a partner especially when they are 40 or even older.

At that age, people want to have something in common with other people. They want to be able to talk at length. So if you are one of those people who find yourself lonely and do not know how to get a boyfriend or a girlfriend, you should not feel bad at all. We all have to deal with it at one point and nurture whatever is there in our life at that time.

But there are also certain things that you should know before getting involved in a relationship.


(1) don’t be too desperate to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend;

(2) be sure if you like someone, also check if the same person is comfortable with you, don’t waste your time before you have found that out, and

(3) be sure if you have nothing in common with the person you like, then you should not just go ahead and pick up the phone and make a meeting with him/her, you might only end up making things worse. So, as you can see, finding a partner, a boyfriend or a girlfriend is not a very good decision at the very early stage of the game!

But if you are really someone who has the courage to go ahead with it and just do it without any kind of worries, then you can go ahead and pick up the phone and make a friendly call or send an SMS to the person you found very interesting that you have been corresponding with for a while now or even to the person you just met this morning.

But if you have decided to take the bold step and not bother wasting another minute of your life to talk to someone you met only recently, you should go ahead and make the decision to meet the person and talk to him/her. Ask him/her if it is OK if you could join their group to meet up friends, or if they would like to see a movie with you.

Make sure you are well dressed and a good conversationalist. Be yourself and be confident. And at the very first meeting, be sure if you are able to be charming, witty, humorous, and something that is interesting to talk to. Because the more you do it, the easier it will be for you.

So the next time you will be picking up the phone to call or text, you can take a little break and be yourself. It will be good for you. That way you will be yourself and be confident, and the person you are getting to know will notice that you are sincere and honest. In the end, if you are sincere, that is why you have been able to build a strong relationship, and if you are sincere then there is no reason that you should not be able to continue that relationship and build a strong relationship with the person. And besides, what is love if there is no sincerity involved?

There is no need to have so much theorizing, thinking, and daydreaming about why you cannot seem to get a boyfriend or girlfriend. Because there is no real cure for this disease, if there is no cure, you will only endure it for this lifetime. You better bet on yourself than to waste this one life.


Silly Questions You Should Never Ask Your Boyfriend

Why you should not Questions?

I know it seems like no relationship is ever secure, yet if you feel the pull to someone, it is never a good idea to let too much distance creep into your current relationship. Quite simply, asking him too many questions, in an attempt to find some hidden infrastructure for the future, will leave a man feeling as if he is under interrogation.

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Ask questions when he least expects them. Although this might sound as if it is an order, as the saying goes, you have to eat when you are hungry, and this means when he least expects, and not in a million years, but sooner rather than later.

If I still feel that pull despite the long glance and sunny smile, then my gurus at Moody’s even advise making the call when he least expects it, in order to break that initial ice. Sounds like a great idea to try, and it is a great idea in every situation! At the very least, he will see you as a warm and caring girlfriend, and at best, if he is truly intrigued by you, then he will call when he is ready.

Internet dating lasts forever. So what if you run into someone. Remember, the notion of waiting to hear from someone after an anonymous phone call is ridiculous. There are a lot of things that can be done on the phone today, whether it is a two-minute call or even voicemail. On the internet, more than ever, people will be unknown until they give up their personal identifying information.

I should know because I have done it numerous times. If you feel comfortable and you have an outgoing personality and you are not afraid to call him first and strike up a conversation, that is perfectly fine, but only do it when you feel comfortable.

Ask a lot of questions and find out what he is interested in and what his hobbies are. There will be contentment, assurance, or even boredom as you get to know each other better.

When you are together, listen carefully to what he says. You are in total control of this aspect of a new relationship because you have the luxury of time and comparison. Talk about music, movies, books, and other things that interest both of you.

He will absolutely love the thought that he can do whatever he can to make you happy instead of feeling like a slave in the relationship. Don’t steer the relationship into the angry, grumpy, demeaning territory, but let him know how much you appreciate whatever it is that makes him tick.

Throughout every call, however, always indicate that you have otherwise to Him twice a day is the new guidelines for relationships.

Remember that the same concept applies in all areas of life. What are your friends like? How do you spend your weekends? Don’t become a stranger to your friends because you only see him when you need a borrow or there are social calls you know you absolutely can’t miss.

Whether it is a business strategy or a relationship tip, the answer is the same. Look for contentment instead of boredom. Stay an interesting individual, and content yourself with your own life and activity.

Relationships are not defined by romance. For ages, unattached women and men would execute just the opposite. Since we are not living in the stone age, romance has taken a back seat in this sociable planet.

Romance may not have its importance the same, but it certainly helps towards building communal bonding and sentiment. Just bits and pieces of romance, aspicardas the fastest way to either joy or sheer annoyance.

But sheer annoyance at times can make a man want to leave. Romance is not only great, but spice, emotionally compromising moments, and heating up the relationship about a grabby neighbor, it all makes a man’s heart arrive at the door ready to open it every time and let the dogs in.


Over 30 Datings – Things to Avoid

Over 30 datings

Whether you are new to an area, moving to a new one, over 30 datings, or simply getting back into the scene, it is worthwhile to avoid some pitfalls that many people occasionally fall into. There are things that you must pay close attention to when embarking on a new relationship, especially one that may affect the rest of your life.

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Many people make the mistake of spending an excessive amount of time getting to know someone online before actually meeting up in person. While this may be perfectly innocent at first, there is a subtle difference between letting someone know that you are interested in them (over 30 datings), and making the mistake of visas to meet up with too many secrets.

When you are meeting someone in person for the first time, there is a certain amount of trust that is required. This may make you feel as though you might be getting double felled by the other person if you reveal too much too soon, or that you are not being told the whole story. This is perfectly natural, and unless you have been together for a long you will not know everything about the person’s background.

Not only do you need to avoid the wasted information of ‘cyber-stalking, but you also need to avoid potential stumbling blocks when you decide to take the next step towards meeting up. This could all result in that awkward first encounter that many people avoid rather than dealing with.

There is no doubt that your potential partner will be trying to tell you as much as they possibly can in order to convince you that they are worthy of your attention. Try not to let this minimize the amount of time you spend, and I certainty you will find that the time you are spending together will be quite exciting. Remember, if they spend that much time getting to know you they are probably getting out their friends, making phone calls, or sending text messages whilst you are out with your friends.

Of course, literature and movies have helped to introduce many of us to the idea that romance should be every day. But in the real world, unless there is a significant time to spend together such as at work or studying, romance cannot be ordinary every day.

A lot of people end up waiting until they meet daily and end up losing so much of themselves in the relationship that they are unable to make their own decisions, and quite simply, they lose the part of them that they like to do. It is not difficult to make plans on a regular basis, but in order to avoid the potential pitfalls of romance in your over thirty dating life, it is important that you do not over-commit.

When you do decide that you want to make it a habit of spending an exciting amount of time together, try to avoid turning it into a drive. Most people do not feel romantic as a result of spending their whole day together. In order to make the most of your time together, plan your dates around your anniversary or other significant dates.

This will ensure that you do not freeze up with nerves and that you are not trying too hard to impress your partner. You can even plan to meet to study at a particular restaurant or for theatre classes, this will ensure that you spend the evening with much to talk about, and who knows, you may even find the romance tonight a natural occurrence.

Wooing people who are not as confident as they should be if they are over 30 dating is never easy, but by making the decision to do so you are pretty certain to come out on top. Keep in mind that it is not the same when you are dating someone younger than you are. They may have all the time in the world to invest in a potential relationship, whereas you are someone who has plenty of time to save up for when you are ready.