Why do women seek attractive men?
Virtually every man has been involved in at least one dating or relationship failure. You get through a lot of nothing (or next to nothing) and don’t really understand why this happens to you.
I get this now and then and have even asked female friends of mine to explain the way that they interpret their boyfriends’ behavior.
My girlfriends always tell me that it’s the little things they find attractive in a man, such as:
- Ignoring a woman when she’s trying to test you-Giving you 100% of your attention after the first few minutes
- Constantly seeking for approval
- Wanting sex, even when you only invite him to give you His mobile number
This is not really the meaning of being attractive to women nor the way most men understand it.
The big issue is that these behavior patterns are deeply psychologically challenging for a woman to arouse attraction against you.
Now, before you go out and buy a guide for cheesy men who use this behavior pattern, do yourself a favor. Men don’t need you to teach them what behavior is attractive to a woman because they have been doing this stuff their entire lives and will continue to do it. They are your success and failure when it comes to dating and relationships.
The only way for you to have success in your dating life is to first acknowledge the fact that you are not succeeding with women and take responsibility for your failures. The only way to get good at something is to practice, practice and practice.
If you have been putting up with this nonsense, there is only one solution… Apply relational dynamics to all of your behaviors that pertain to women.
To sum it all up, you have to unlearn your copied behaviorsandritten socially programmed behaviors in every area of your life.
Be consistent in your efforts and never stop trying. You cannot be satisfied with “doing it right this time” or with “being me” or with “just wait for it to happen”.
The only way to become good with women is to consistently be committed to this process of continuous learning, practice, and application.
inner game, body language, conversation skills, pop culture points.
- your social status
- your income level
- your physical savvy
- your fashion sense
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A Simple Test To Find Out Whether You Are Compatible With Her Or Not
Let’s say you have a friend and she truly seems to like to pick on you.
Let’s say further still that she actively pursues to bring it up in every conversation you and she is very difficult to get a date with.
This can suggest two things.
- Either you have really hurt her feelings or she is a hard person.
What’s the difference?
My recommendation is to go with your first gut feeling.
Most people have NO IDEA what they like about another person!
Really, it’s all about being real about the person you’re attracted to and the person who is attracted to you.
If, for example, you don’t like that person when you are talking to them and you don’t even like them when you see them, it’s a GOOD sign, my friend!
That’s a big NO!
In fact, that would disqualify her as a possible partner from another standpoint (although that’s not what you want or need, I’m just exercising a bad manners principle!).
- A woman who IS interested in you as more than a friend is going to make it OBVIOUS that that is the case.
By that, I REALLY mean that she has asked you a slew of friendship questions, but is asking them in a way as though she wants to know whether you have a girlfriend.
You might ask how someone as socially confident as you is doing this.
And they are NOT speaking in a secretive or devious way.
They are speaking in a very open and sincere way that acknowledges how you feel about her.
And the way she is asking these questions is a way that shows whether she sees you JUST as a friend or as a possible boyfriend.
I have to say that it can get really ugly when a woman we want to be friends with needs to see you again and again before she can decide what she wants to do.
That’s why it is important to always let women know early on what their intentions are.
If you want something, let them know.
If you want to be just friends, then you let them know ahead of time.
And if you want to be friends AND potential partners, then make it OBVIOUS as well. It doesn’t matter how much you want to be more than friends.
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